She’s a businesswoman, singer, and ultimate boss-babe but her proudest titles are that of Mom and Wife. Meet 27-year old South African born pop-star Moniqe Fiddes, someone who fits the title of “Absolute Mama” perfectly!
Singing has always been Moniqe’s passion. In 2009 Moniqe got signed to an independent record company in South Africa and released her first album in 2010, called “Ek kan”. Her hit single “Tell me Y” reached over 230 000 views within the first 2 months.
Her husband, Matt Fiddes, is one of the most respected experts in the international world of martial arts and fitness. Matt’s achievements have seen him honoured at the highest level, after being inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame and presented with the prestigious ‘Martial Arts Superstar Award’. He has numerous celebrity clientele including actors, supermodels and singers. Undoubtedly Matt’s biggest client was superstar Michael Jackson. Introduced to Matt by his close friend Uri Geller, Matt was Michael’s personal UK bodyguard for over a decade before his tragic death in June 2009.
9th October 2020 marks a special date for Moniqe as she is set to release her brand new album, Colourful, after having taken some time off between settling down in the UK and starting a family.
She describes her new album Colourful as a “happy album” with both upbeat and slow songs.
What does being a mother mean to you?
Everything really… To be brutally honest I never wanted kids of my own, that’s why when I got married to my husband Matt he already had three great kids of his own with his ex-wife so I was quite happy to settle without having any of my own. Until about 6 months into my marriage I wanted my own baby… Never did I think I would end up having three of my own! My husband is banned from being near me in March as all my babies were born in December haha.
You’re a mom of 3 and stepmom to 3, all before the age of 28. How do you manage 6 children?
I think being a stepmom teaches you a lot about kids. I do not look at them as my step kids, I look at them as my own kids. I would literally do anything for them.
They have been a part of my life for almost 9 years – Savannah was 4, Lola 5 and Madison 8.
Now there are 6 in total and they all treat each other like brothers and sisters and not half-sisters and brothers. They never mention or talk about being half siblings, and as for us they are all the same.
How did you adapt to becoming a step-mom?
It’s been part of our relationship from the start so for me it just happened naturally.
What important life lessons do you believe your children should learn at an early age?
Appreciate everything and every moment in life, and never take anything for granted. Seek for the good in everything.
What personality trait do you most admire in each of your boys, Hero and Zack?
Hero – I love his cheekiness
Zack – I adore his kindness and the little gentleman that he is.
They are both mini versions of Matt.
What has been the biggest challenge when it comes to being a mom?
Making sure you always seem “ok” when sometimes you feel like everything is a bit too much.
What is your best tip of advice for new parents?
Don’t plan how to be the best parent, it will just happen naturally. Every day is a new learning curve, it is part of your family puzzle. Take your time to build it piece by piece and make sure to enjoy it as time goes by way too quickly and kids really do grow up in the blink of an eye.
How would you describe yourself as a parent?
I really don’t know how to describe myself as a parent. I try my best and despite having 3 children, I am still learning every day.
Any more children planned for the future?
Mmm… I am not going to answer this one as the last time with Hero I said no to everyone who asked this exact question and then ended up having to face every one I said no to with a pregnant belly (being pregnant with Mayella).
Children’s names and ages:
– Mayella 1
– Hero 4
– Zack 6
– Savannah 13
– Lola 14
– Madison 16
Moniqe’s album, Colourful, launches on the 9th October on iTunes, Spotify and all other digital platforms.
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